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If you struggle with frustration and anger related to trauma or loss,
you may try to hide your feelings in the hope that they will go away.
Unfortunately, intense feelings must be recognized and dealt with; they don't
just go away on their own.
You may become angry and blame others for what has happened, even
though it is not their fault. This is called displaced anger. You may get angry
with a higher power, such as God.
Frustration and anger affect people emotionally and physically. You
may work out these feelings by talking with someone or through physical
activity (such as running, cleaning house, or punching a pillow). Working out
frustration and anger in a physical way helps relieve muscle tension and may
reduce restlessness and irritation.
Unresolved frustration and anger may grow until you are not able to
deal with them. You may then yell, scream, or hit someone or something.
Unexpressed frustration and anger can also cause other problems, such as
physical illness or
The first step in overcoming frustration and anger is to recognize
that you are feeling these emotions. Many people were taught as children not to
express frustration and anger. If you are feeling bottled up inside and are not
sure what to do about it, try:
If you continue to have trouble overcoming your frustration and
anger, or if you have had problems with anger in the past, talk about your
concerns with someone you trust, such as a clergyperson or a health
professional. You may decide to join a self-help group or seek
Current as of:
January 9, 2013
Adam Husney, MD - Family Medicine & Jessica Hamblen, PhD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
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